Liquid courage is not your friend. You only get hurt in the end. Yes, I know the statistics about African American women and single motherhood, marriage and dysfunctional families continue to rise…and you have to be “aggressive” when it comes to dating, but don’t set yourself up for failure…don’t rely on that courage that s-l-o-w-l-y builds you up and then drops you like a bad habit,-leaving you looking like a stalking fool.
Picture this…
You’re hanging with your girls, you’re talking about the dreamy dude, your FUTURE baby father/husband/jawn/significant other that you are head over heels in like with. You bring up that fact that he won’t call you back, sometimes calls back, doesn’t “respond the way” he should. Now your real friends will tell you to move and that there are more fish in the sea…but there are some associates (notice I didn’t say friends) who will pump your head up with the following jargon..."girl he likes you"..."he probably is just busy"..."you know he lost his phone"...”maybe he doesn’t know you are interested”…"no he is not gay"..."just call him and ask him what’s up"…”keep calling” and what happens...DISASTER.....just one or two sips of your favorite glass of _________...and then you send him a text…or you tweet about him...then you send a bbm...then you have another sip...and you text again...you giggle...you check his Facebook page...take another sip...and before you know it, the bottle is empty, he hasn’t responded, you have run out of your "unlimited text messages", Facebook and twitter both have frozen screens. You should be classified as a borderline stalker and probably be on suicide watch at this point. You have typed some things that you wouldn't have said had you not been encouraged and not...taken that sip of ___________ <----Insert your favorite kind of Riesling Zinfandel, Vodka etc.
LIQUID COURAGE
It gets us every time.
...and HE does what he normally does, responds at first and then stops...or doesnt respond at all.
WHY do we (women) put ourselves through the drama and bullshit? Haven’t we learned? We have watched countless movies, television shows, read books, blogs and infamous quote that have said a number of times and a million different ways that if HE isn’t responded or initiating "He is just not that into you…” He knows you are interested but HE is trying to let you down gently because HE is not interested. Maybe he was in the beginning because he gave you the number, he responded at first, maybe you went on a date or two or maybe he invited you over. Indeed he probably only wanted one thing or maybe in those interactions HE decided you were not his type. I know you are thinking maybe he will like me more if we hang out more...hello! Wake up! Seriously, when are you going to hang out if he doesn’t return any of your forms of outreach…the calls/texts/tweets/bbms/pings/facebookmessagesandwallposts. No hard feelings. Let him go. Don’t stalk, especially not after you have been drinking. Liquid courage also known as liquid confidence is an alcoholic beverage that enables you to become gregarious and much more comfortable/confident in social situations. So you say to yourself "F-it, he's gonna respond this time...watch!"...and you pull out that phone...and well that liquid (and your girlfriends) didnt do anything except hype you up. He doesnt respond. Salty feeling. Very.
This is for all of my sisters who were ever in
Sister, you need to move on. If he was interested he would have hunted you down like wild prey. He would have called you, responded, took you out, and asked ALL of your girlfriends about you….etc. etc. you get my point…right?
Don’t get caught up. Tell that _____________ <----Insert your favorite kind of Riesling Zinfandel, Vodka etc. That you do not have time.
Don’t let it get the best of you.
No tears.
No badgering.
No social media stalking
No more liquid courage.
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